How I turned a complicated pregnancy into a positive campaign
First up, let’s get something out of the way, and then let’s get onto the positive. When I see pregnancy announcements or perfect birth stories, I often make a conscious decision not to read. If it’s a blog post linked up in the same linky, I may have a skim read and then I often ‘just’ share the post.
It’s because I struggle to read ‘perfect’ pregnancy and perfect birth stories. The reason being that I had a Complicated Pregnancy
which involved a low placenta and resulted in pre-eclampsia, an emergency c-section and HELLP syndrome (which saw me in intensive care for a week).
I realise that people go through far more than that in pregnancy and I’ll always be grateful for having a healthy daughter.
I understand that people can’t wait to share their news and they have every right to (just like I have every right to choose not to read something that is likely to upset and frustrate me.).
What I really struggle to understand is why women choose to have a home birth. There, I’ve said it.
Things can go wrong very quickly during labour. Why risk not having the top consultants and surgeons literally scrubbed up in a theatre for you and your baby?
I’m getting a little ranty, I know.
And that’s not really my style.
Yet it seems that I’m harbouring frustration towards home births. Some may say it’s jealousy. Well, I say not – I never wanted a home birth. Just a healthy baby. And I was happy to have a section, more than happy to be ‘scheduled in’!
In an age where you have the best medical staff and equipment that a developed country can offer, why be so naive to think that everything will carry on hunky dory?
The serene dream
Yes, it’s lovely to have that serene dream of a home birth, of course it is.
but let’s get real here.
This is pregnancy.
Things can and do go very wrong. A sad fact.
Although a *little* ranty, this post actually serves to illustrate that I’m grateful for being healthy, for being here with my little family, for having a healthy daughter… when things could have been so very different. And undoubtedly would have been if I’d been insistent on having a home birth or at least sticking to any other birth plan.
When things had settled into newborn life, I started to post a few updates on facebook about how we were both very lucky to be here. And one night, a good friend said, “wow, you should turn this into a book.”
So I did. An ebook to be precise. An ebook that I published to ‘hellp’ raise awareness of HELLP syndrome. Because it’s more common than you think, yet the healthcare professionals often don’t treat it with the urgency that it needs or just plain don’t recognise it for what it is in the first place. Then I decided that as well my letter to the NHS, another way to giving something back when I got so much care, would be to give half of the proceeds to the charity Action on Pre-eclampsia (APEC).
And that’s what this post is for
It’s not for a rant so much as to tell you how I turned my complicated pregnancy into a positive campaign. (I didn’t mean to rant quite so much by the way, but it did feel good…)
If I’ve caused anyone an offence on their past, present or future birth plan that may include a home birth, that wasn’t my intention. This is my little corner of the internet and I wanted to show how I turned a trauma into a positive project.
Thanks for reading and I’ve hope I’ve raised some awareness.
Have you turned an unpleasant experience into something positive? (pregnancy-related or otherwise.) I’d love to hear from you! Comment below or tweet me @AllSortsHere
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