Last week I told you briefly why there hasn’t been much going on in the Virtually All Sorts camp from a blogging perspective over the past few months. We’ve had the stuffing knocked out of us…
… but I’m turning my rollercoaster ride into something positive: a series of blog posts to hopefully help others who may be experiencing some of the same events, like a family bereavement.
Yes, unfortunately, we recently had an unexpected family bereavement and all of mine and hubby’s energies have been focussed on keeping life as normal as possible for our little girl (who is now 6).
Yet right at the beginning of this challenging event, we asked ourselves if ‘normal’ is good for our little girl. At some point, we all have to experience grief. At some point we all have to experience the rollercoaster of emotions: anger, sadness, shock, exhaustion… and so it starts all over again.
…but not too young, surely?
We asked ourselves: Do we simply tell her that someone has died? Or do we use phrases like ‘gone to sleep’ or ‘passed away’?
We found the Marie Curie website really helpful and reassuring. And we approached the subject in a black and white, simplistic, age-appropriate way. So far it seems to have gone as smoothly as can be expected. Of course, there have been emotional days when our little girl, “can’t stop,” her crying, to which we’ve told her that it’s her feelings finding their way out of her body and she must let them out by tears if they need to come out.
It’s heart-breaking to see her go through this, heart-breaking to go through it with her but vital that she must go through it, in equal measure.
Next week I’ll talk you through how to cope in a medical emergency… but for now I’d love to hear how you approached this sensitive subject with your little one?