Pocket money – an alternative approach ~ #IfShesHappyImHappy

How To Teach Your Child The Value Of Money Pocket Money Spending Saving Earning Jobs Parenting Kids Virtually All Sorts

Pocket money – an alternative approach

I recently introduced a regular feature #IfShesHappyImHappy and this week I’m talking about pocket money.  #IfShesHappyImHappy is all about the cycle of happiness – you being happy, making your child happy and it coming full circle to make you happy again!  You can read it here if you missed it.

How To Teach Your Child The Value Of Money Pocket Money Spending Saving Earning Jobs Parenting Kids Virtually All Sorts

Our approach to pocket money is probably not the most common one.  But perhaps it’s more common than I think.  Maybe you can tell me!…

Whichever way you look at it, money is something that our children will have to get to grips with in some form.  Be it physical money or by bank transfers or ‘plastic’.

Money makes the world go round…

Money is said to make the world go round and even if she has modest amounts of it when she’s older, hubby and I both agreed that our daughter needs to be empowered by it and not see it as a ‘problem’ or even worse, ‘dirty’.

We both agree that our daughter should understand that generally you have to work for it.  Yes, it’s nice to have some given to you, but more rewarding to have earned it.

To that end, we introduced weekly jobs for her.  In the early days, she earned 1p for each box she ticked on her weekly ‘job sheet’, of which there were 5 boxes a day.

So that’s potentially 5p a day, if she chose to do the job.  We’ve never put any pressure on her to do a ‘job’, simply telling her that she wouldn’t get her money if she didn’t do the job.  Of course, there are days when she’s sick and on holiday from school.  In which case, she gets her money anyway, because most people get sick pay and holiday pay after all!

So, what are her jobs?

We started with tidying, putting clothes in the linen basket and helping to hoover her bedroom.  That takes us up to the present day when she also sets the table for tea (by that I meaning putting the cutlery out.)

It works really well and there have only been a few occasions when she has ‘opted-out’.  At the end of each week, she counts how much money she’s earned by counting the boxes on her job sheet.  Sometimes we purposefully over pay or short-change her to see if she’s really counting and notices – which she does!  She’s honest when overpaid too!

What’s the point?

The point is not the jobs she has to complete but that she’s empowered, just like we are (generally!) in the real, grown-up world of work.  She has free-will and has experienced the consequences of choosing not to do a job (or 2…).  But she’s also felt empowered from earning her money.

Just the other day, we were out shopping, she saw something, knew she didn’t have enough money and said she would pay me back.  I felt mean by saying ‘no’ but otherwise, there’s little point in doing this little exercise at all…  It’s about earning money, maybe saving and spending as you earn it.  Not about spending it before you’ve earned it.

Unwittingly, our 7 year old is already learning about the value and power of earning money and that fuzzy feeling you get when you’ve saved for something or simply ‘earned’ something.

And that’s good enough for me because…

#IfShesHappyImHappy

  How do you approach pocket money?   Please share your thoughts in the comments below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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How a group activity can grow your child’s confidence ~ #IfShesHappyImHappy

How A Group Activity Can Grow Your Child's Confidence #IfShesHappyImHappy It's About You Being Happy, Making Your Child Happy, It Coming Full Circle Making You Happy!

How a group activity can grow your child’s confidence

I recently introduced a regular feature #IfShesHappyImHappy and this week I’m talking about a group activity that our daughter enjoys and has helped to build her confidence.  #IfShesHappyImHappy is all about the cycle of happiness – you being happy, making your child happy and it coming full circle to make you happy again!  You can read it here if you missed it.

How A Group Activity Can Grow Your Child's Confidence #IfShesHappyImHappy It's About You Being Happy, Making Your Child Happy, It Coming Full Circle Making You Happy!

Expressing themselves

Our daughter’s 7 and typically, she loves to dance and sing.  Very soon I’m sure she’ll be singing into a hairbrush.

For now, she loves to express herself by dancing and singing.  And so when she got a place in the cheerleading club at her school, I was really pleased.  She’d been asking to go, to join in with her friend.  And she loves it!

I even found some cheerleading pompoms in Poundland.  Of course, her eyes lit up when she saw them and off she went.

Age range

What I love about her little cheerleading group is that not everyone’s her age.  The group of around 15 range from 6-11 years old I think.

There’s a boy from her class who joins in just as eagerly as the rest, and she’s always shattered afterwards so the teacher is clearly getting  a lot from them!

And it’s turned into a family affair.  Oh yes, one rainy Saturday, we were all up on our feet waving pom-poms around and strutting our stuff to the cheerleading moves!  I was shattered, I can tell you…

Seeing their confidence grow

A few weeks ago, they did a little performance for us which was lovely to see.  As with anything, we’ve been building her confidence by using encouraging words, by telling her well done and by playing music in the house which she generally sings and dances to.  Her confidence has been growing and growing.  It was great to see her performing to the songs with her friends.

Whichever way you look at it, this group activity is good for our daughter and though it doesn’t need to be cheerleading, an activity like this could be good for your child too…

And #IfShesHappyImHappy

  What group activities does/did your child do that helped their confidence grow?   Please share your thoughts in the comments below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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5 Ways To Build Your Child’s Confidence ~ #IfShesHappyImHappy

5 Ways To Build Your Childs Confidence And Self Esteem And Empower Them #IfShesHappyImHappy Main

5 Ways To Build Your Child’s Confidence  

I recently introduced a regular feature #IfShesHappyImHappy and this week I’m talking about building your child’s confidence.  #IfShesHappyImHappy is all about the cycle of happiness – you being happy, making your child happy and it coming full circle to make you happy again!  You can read it here if you missed it.

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All Children are different

We all know that children are different, that siblings can be like chalk and cheese and that children develop at different rates.

Yet most children will benefit from activities that include the same factors; the factors that encourage their own development and more importantly, that encourage them to develop at their own speeds.  They may include activities that encourage:

Being sociable

Being expressive

Being vocal

Being creative

Being together

And all of these factors encourage development in so many other ways.  In fact, they all come together like a big jigsaw puzzle.

All like pieces slotting in together. 

And the middle piece?

That could be you – the parent or carer.

The piece that nurtures, guides, encourages that vital independence to enable your child to develop in a way that’s healthy for them.

And of course, when our children have these pieces slotted together, it does help them to have a more confident, happier outlook on life.

We could sometimes all use a little help to have a positive outlook!

By giving children the opportunity to get involved in the activities involving the factors listed above, we’re laying their foundations for healthy development.

 What are your thoughts on building confidence in children?  Please share your thoughts in the comments below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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The good old times, assertiveness and another sale!

After a good friend posted a ton of pictures of the bygone days online, we now have a reunion provisionally planned for July 2013!  It really is incredible how a few photos can stir up so many happy memories (not mammories lads!) and get a group of very good friends back together again!

I’ve sold another copy of my book ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’… very, extremely, unbelievably pleased about that (as Lola from  ‘Charlie and Lola’ might say!)

Of all the books you can read about how to cope with a toddler’s assertiveness, you can’t really, truly be prepared for it in real life.  Picture the scene – with not a great deal of time before our little bear had to go to the childminders to see her ‘animal friends’, we made a quick trip to the library.  It’s getting harder and harder to coax her into her pushchair these days and to be fair, she is getting too big for it.  Where DID my baby go?!  She’s quite happy to walk with her reins but has recently started to pull back on them like a dog and wants to go in completely the opposite direction.  If you want to go to the shop, she wants the park. Not a problem if you’re not in a hurry!  She’s also decided that she wants to actually sit on her potty.  Great! Fantastic!  But not when you’ve got to the be out of the house in 5 minutes…! Assertiveness is a great characteristic and I hope she grows up to be confident and assertive but I’m running out of negotiation skills and bribes!