Pocket money – an alternative approach ~ #IfShesHappyImHappy

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Pocket money – an alternative approach

I recently introduced a regular feature #IfShesHappyImHappy and this week I’m talking about pocket money.  #IfShesHappyImHappy is all about the cycle of happiness – you being happy, making your child happy and it coming full circle to make you happy again!  You can read it here if you missed it.

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Our approach to pocket money is probably not the most common one.  But perhaps it’s more common than I think.  Maybe you can tell me!…

Whichever way you look at it, money is something that our children will have to get to grips with in some form.  Be it physical money or by bank transfers or ‘plastic’.

Money makes the world go round…

Money is said to make the world go round and even if she has modest amounts of it when she’s older, hubby and I both agreed that our daughter needs to be empowered by it and not see it as a ‘problem’ or even worse, ‘dirty’.

We both agree that our daughter should understand that generally you have to work for it.  Yes, it’s nice to have some given to you, but more rewarding to have earned it.

To that end, we introduced weekly jobs for her.  In the early days, she earned 1p for each box she ticked on her weekly ‘job sheet’, of which there were 5 boxes a day.

So that’s potentially 5p a day, if she chose to do the job.  We’ve never put any pressure on her to do a ‘job’, simply telling her that she wouldn’t get her money if she didn’t do the job.  Of course, there are days when she’s sick and on holiday from school.  In which case, she gets her money anyway, because most people get sick pay and holiday pay after all!

So, what are her jobs?

We started with tidying, putting clothes in the linen basket and helping to hoover her bedroom.  That takes us up to the present day when she also sets the table for tea (by that I meaning putting the cutlery out.)

It works really well and there have only been a few occasions when she has ‘opted-out’.  At the end of each week, she counts how much money she’s earned by counting the boxes on her job sheet.  Sometimes we purposefully over pay or short-change her to see if she’s really counting and notices – which she does!  She’s honest when overpaid too!

What’s the point?

The point is not the jobs she has to complete but that she’s empowered, just like we are (generally!) in the real, grown-up world of work.  She has free-will and has experienced the consequences of choosing not to do a job (or 2…).  But she’s also felt empowered from earning her money.

Just the other day, we were out shopping, she saw something, knew she didn’t have enough money and said she would pay me back.  I felt mean by saying ‘no’ but otherwise, there’s little point in doing this little exercise at all…  It’s about earning money, maybe saving and spending as you earn it.  Not about spending it before you’ve earned it.

Unwittingly, our 7 year old is already learning about the value and power of earning money and that fuzzy feeling you get when you’ve saved for something or simply ‘earned’ something.

And that’s good enough for me because…

#IfShesHappyImHappy

  How do you approach pocket money?   Please share your thoughts in the comments below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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How a group activity can grow your child’s confidence ~ #IfShesHappyImHappy

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How a group activity can grow your child’s confidence

I recently introduced a regular feature #IfShesHappyImHappy and this week I’m talking about a group activity that our daughter enjoys and has helped to build her confidence.  #IfShesHappyImHappy is all about the cycle of happiness – you being happy, making your child happy and it coming full circle to make you happy again!  You can read it here if you missed it.

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Expressing themselves

Our daughter’s 7 and typically, she loves to dance and sing.  Very soon I’m sure she’ll be singing into a hairbrush.

For now, she loves to express herself by dancing and singing.  And so when she got a place in the cheerleading club at her school, I was really pleased.  She’d been asking to go, to join in with her friend.  And she loves it!

I even found some cheerleading pompoms in Poundland.  Of course, her eyes lit up when she saw them and off she went.

Age range

What I love about her little cheerleading group is that not everyone’s her age.  The group of around 15 range from 6-11 years old I think.

There’s a boy from her class who joins in just as eagerly as the rest, and she’s always shattered afterwards so the teacher is clearly getting  a lot from them!

And it’s turned into a family affair.  Oh yes, one rainy Saturday, we were all up on our feet waving pom-poms around and strutting our stuff to the cheerleading moves!  I was shattered, I can tell you…

Seeing their confidence grow

A few weeks ago, they did a little performance for us which was lovely to see.  As with anything, we’ve been building her confidence by using encouraging words, by telling her well done and by playing music in the house which she generally sings and dances to.  Her confidence has been growing and growing.  It was great to see her performing to the songs with her friends.

Whichever way you look at it, this group activity is good for our daughter and though it doesn’t need to be cheerleading, an activity like this could be good for your child too…

And #IfShesHappyImHappy

  What group activities does/did your child do that helped their confidence grow?   Please share your thoughts in the comments below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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5 Ways To Build Your Child’s Confidence ~ #IfShesHappyImHappy

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5 Ways To Build Your Child’s Confidence  

I recently introduced a regular feature #IfShesHappyImHappy and this week I’m talking about building your child’s confidence.  #IfShesHappyImHappy is all about the cycle of happiness – you being happy, making your child happy and it coming full circle to make you happy again!  You can read it here if you missed it.

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All Children are different

We all know that children are different, that siblings can be like chalk and cheese and that children develop at different rates.

Yet most children will benefit from activities that include the same factors; the factors that encourage their own development and more importantly, that encourage them to develop at their own speeds.  They may include activities that encourage:

Being sociable

Being expressive

Being vocal

Being creative

Being together

And all of these factors encourage development in so many other ways.  In fact, they all come together like a big jigsaw puzzle.

All like pieces slotting in together. 

And the middle piece?

That could be you – the parent or carer.

The piece that nurtures, guides, encourages that vital independence to enable your child to develop in a way that’s healthy for them.

And of course, when our children have these pieces slotted together, it does help them to have a more confident, happier outlook on life.

We could sometimes all use a little help to have a positive outlook!

By giving children the opportunity to get involved in the activities involving the factors listed above, we’re laying their foundations for healthy development.

 What are your thoughts on building confidence in children?  Please share your thoughts in the comments below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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The Cycle of Happiness #IfShesHappyImHappy

The Cycle of Happiness #IfShesHappyImHappy . It's About Making You And Your Child Happy

The Cycle of Happiness #IfShesHappyImHappy

Today, I’m introducing a regular feature #IfShesHappyImHappy.  It’s all about the cycle of happiness – you being happy, making your child happy and it coming full circle to make you happy again!

There are 2 schools of thought here, as far as I can see.

1… as a parent, you can only be happy if your child/ren is/are happy

2… as a parent, you need to be happy first before they can be happy

I fit into both of these schools, which is why I said above that it’s about the ‘cycle’ of happiness, the big jigsaw, the ‘happy circle’ (as cheesey as that sounds!)

The Cycle of Happiness #IfShesHappyImHappy . It's About Making You And Your Child Happy

It’s a 2-way street

We all know that our children (especially young children) can really feel our emotions – good or bad.  No matter how hard we try to hide our anxiety, we still show it through our feelings.

Children can be sensitive little beans and pick up on these feelings.  A classic example could be the first day or school – you drop them off into their new classroom, you’re all smiles etc and when you’re out of the school gates, the floodgates open (usually yours, not theirs).  I’ve been there myself.

To my mind, or school of thought, it’s about empowering them, giving them the confidence to be happy.  And that’s where the cycle comes in.  Because we feel our childrens’ feelings just as much as they feel ours (arguably more at times!).  So we feel each other’s happiness or otherwise.

Here’s the point

So, here I am finally getting to the point of #IfShesHappyImHappy

I make no apology for saying that my daughter’s happiness and good mental health is the most important thing to me.  I’d do anything within my power to make her happy, as any parent would.  And I know that if she’s happy, I’m happy, and if I’m happy she’s happy.   There’s that cycle again!

I will be sharing posts on things that our daughter has said, done, made, given, shared that’s made her and me – us ‘happy’!  I do this anyway but I wanted to dig a little deeper and make a little feature of it.

Because #IfShesHappyImHappy

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Love is about this for me… what do YOU think love is?

As a teenager, I used to secretly hope for a Valentine’s Day card from my secret love.  It never happened though!
I did get a card one year from a boyfriend but that’s been about my fill!

 

As I’ve grown up, I’ve come to realise that love isn’t all about chocolate and flowers (though I wouldn’t say no to them any day of the week… I’ll even buy them myself.  I mean, why not?!)
Love is about this for me…
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In our house…
Love is all about having a lingering, tight hug every day.
Love is all about us telling our daughter what an amazing person she is and using empowering words.  Every. Single. Day.
Love is all about having group hugs.
Love is all about clearing the negative energy that comes into our home; the energy that clings on to us on a daily basis.
Love is all about us loving each other in our house and then leaving the house happy, full of our own and each other’s love and sharing that love.
Love is free – it’s not about chocolates, flowers or cards (though the chocolates and flowers would still be nice!)
Love is simple and free… it’s about nurturing the right energy and making space for it 🙂

 

What do you think love is?  All positive thoughts are welcome!  Share them in the comments below or tweet me @AllSortsHere 🙂

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5 ways to ground yourself and control anxiety

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5 ways to ground yourself and control anxiety…

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Look at happy pictures.  My ‘Smile, give your face a work-out’ pinterest board never fails to, well make me smile!  There are quite a few cute cat ones on there but the rest are just random ones that I’m sure will make you laugh from the belly.  You’re welcome 🙂

 

Surround yourself with positive people.  And if you’re limited to social contact for whatever reason (due to sleeping children at night-time or isolation perhaps due to illness), then you can join in with forums or even pinterest boards.  My ‘Just Wow’ board may literally take your breath away.  When I’m pinning away, I’m saying ‘wow’ and bam, it ends up on my board.  The beauty will at least help you forget your anxiety for a while.

 

Read positive things ~ blogs, books, and inspirational quotes.

 

Breathe ‘properly’ ~ meditate, practice yoga, use crystals.

 

Use a grounding rock ~ Mine is called my ‘gratitude rock’ and it works really well for me.  It’s whichever crystal I have on my person on any given day.  By physically touching it, I’m reminded of why it’s there, which helps to ground me.  I always make sure I’m using the right one for me on any given day.

 

Have you got any other ways to ground yourself?  All positive thoughts are welcome!  Share them in the comments below or tweet me @AllSortsHere 🙂

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Let’s create a virtual wave of positivity!

#PositiveThinking is my monthly blog linky which returns on 27th November!

Subscribe today in the right hand sidebar and receive the next post straight to your inbox.

Join me on the last Sunday of each month ~ link up any blog post with a positive and happy theme (and it’d be great if you could copy my badge below into your post).  Perhaps your positive thought could be connected to a goal you have in mind, something funny you’ve heard or something funny you’ve seen.  If it’s got a PositiveThinking theme, it works for this linky.  Old or new posts, it doesn’t matter – link up as many as you like.  The new linky post opens at 0600 GMT on the last Sunday of each month.

If you’re not a blogger, you can still join in by tweeting anything positive with #PositiveThinking and include a direct tweet to me @AllSortsHere… I’ll share by retweeting.

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My happy May #365doh

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So here’s where I sort the juice of my month from the pith and focus on the happy , the positivity and gratitude in my life 🙂

And it’s time to look back on May and its offerings!

But where did May go?  It all seemed to pass by in a blur to be honest.  That’s mainly due to 2 Bank Holidays (if you’re in the UK) and lots (and lots) of blogging.

After completing the #AtoZChallenge I decided to set myself a further challenge and blog every day until further notice (well, every day except Sundays. But even then I’m considering joining in with Silent Sunday…)  Why?  Because I absolutely love blogging and all that it entails.  I’m passionate about it and want to grow my blogging wings 🙂

We could all use a little gratitude…

That aside, I’ve started to do some yoga every other day and it’s really making a difference to my energy levels.  Okay, so I’m not *actually* jumping out of bed and stretching out on my yoga mat with a big smile on my face.  That’d just be a bit odd.  But I am getting up earlier than normal (and earlier than hubby and Our Little Bear) to do 10 minutes of stretching and breathing.  I’m managing to stretch that little bit more each time I do it, so I’m feeling that benefit that way too.  Why am I grateful for doing yoga?  It’s freeing up some time in the evenings to do some writing which I’m very grateful for.

We could all use a smile…

You know that big smile I mentioned just now?  Well there have been plenty, which is always a good thing!  One of those things is that Our Bear is loving a good book and can read by herself now, too.  Amazing!  She’s gone up 2 reading levels in the space of 2 weeks (maybe even less).  It’s a #ProudMummy(and Daddy)Moment indeed 🙂

…And we could all use some happiness…

That’s a snap shot of May.  Let’s see what June brings.  See you next month 🙂

What about you?  What have made up your happy days?

I’m linking this up with Lexie at Those Words She Wrote for #365doh, what will you share?

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You’re in a good mood ~ #PositiveThinking

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…because when you wake up every morning in a good mood it’s the start of a new day, a new opportunity to smile, a new opportunity to focus and be positive 🙂

Let’s create a virtual wave of positivity!

#PositiveThinking is my new monthly blog linky and twitter party.

Join me on the last Sunday of each month ~ link up any blog post with a positive and happy theme (and it’d be great if you could copy my badge below into your post).  Perhaps your positive thought could be connected to a goal you have in mind, something funny you’ve heard or something funny you’ve seen.  If it’s got a PositiveThinking theme, it works for this linky.  Old or new posts, it doesn’t matter – link up as many as you like.  The linky opens at 0600 GMT on the last Sunday of each month and stays open until midnight the following Saturday.

Also join me on twitter from 0900-2100 GMT on the last Sunday of each month.  Tweet anything positive and/or promote your positive blogpost (the one you link up!) with #PositiveThinking and include a direct tweet to me @AllSortsHere… I’ll share by retweeting.

Let’s get the positive vibrations going good and strong 🙂

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My happy April #365doh

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Be happy, be positive and smile…

So here’s where I sort the juice of my month from the pith and focus on the happy , the positivity and gratitude in my life 🙂

We could all use a little gratitude…

 April was all about the #AtoZChallenge for me as a blogger.  While it’s hard work to keep up with the posts (even when you schedule), it’s very rewarding to find fresh, new blogs to read, comment on and share.  And of course, it works the other way too – and I’ve felt extremely grateful that people have taken the time to do the same with my blogposts.

We could all use a smile…

Now that challenge is over for another year (I sound like I’m world-weary but I don’t mean to!), there is something new to look forward to on this here very blog!  It’s something to make me, you and everyone smile…  And that’s got to be a good thing 😉  On the last Sunday of each month we’re going to create a virtual wave of positivity.  I’m going to host a Twitter party on the theme of #PositiveThinking.  No negativity allowed 🙂

We could all use some happiness…

And finally in April, the sun shone, I even did some writing outside in the beautiful sunshine and even after the rain that we had too, the garden is now lush and ready for Summer.  🙂

Let’s see what May brings.

I’m linking this up with Lexie at Those Words She Wrote for #365doh, what will you share?

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