How you and your child can learn from your history

Our daughter keeps asking to see photos of me as a baby.  She’s fascinated!  I keep meaning to dig them out at my parents.  (Yes, they actually have them stuck into photo albums, not saved and hidden from view on a hard drive and in ‘clouds’…)

There’s one particular photo of our daughter when she was around 6 months old in her bouncer.  She’s the complete and utter, absolute double of me as a baby in this photo (except her eye colour and tone, which are 100% hubby’s – the shape of the eyes and the gaze are absolutely me though…)

I love looking back at photos.  It’s fascinating that my baby face started out so soft and unweathered!  I wonder now what the first real stress was that I experienced and what effect that had on my features.  And then as to how much more stress and lack of sleep over the years contributed to my ‘now’ face!  (No, I’m not doing before and after pics!)

But it’s life, isn’t it?  It’s what makes us, us.

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How we deal with life and stress, of course, can determine how rugged and weathered we look years down the line.  Some of it’s genetics but if I knew growing up what I know now about life, about healthy living, about the effects of ‘what goes in, comes out’ (so to speak!), I would very likely have had a different approach, have been kinder to my younger self!  Maybe even have taken things more slowly…

I certainly deal with stress in a different way now.

I’m not even sure how I dealt with such things as exams, boys, student life and budgeting.

But nowadays, I choose to relax with candles, yoga, meditation and reiki, and I also eat lots of fruit and veg.

My older, wiser self would, no doubt, be critical of my much younger self.

And as our daughter grows up, I know she takes it all in because she’s asked to do yoga with me.  She asks which crystals are which.  She notices things.  She copies my healthy eating.  She copies my attitude to others and adopts my kinder, more patient qualities (hark at me!)

Being a parent is my chance to re-write history, to open doors for our daughter, to open her mind to possibilities that my younger self knew existed.

I’m using my knowledge and turning my story, my history into her-story


What would you do differently in turning your story into your child’s future history?  I’d love to know!  Please comment below or tweet me @AllSortsHere


Book review : East End Tales by Gilda O’Neill

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Today I’d like to share with you a book review.  One of my favourite genres to read falls under the category ‘tales of bygone days’.  It feeds my intrigue of days when life wasn’t as easy as it is for many of us now.  Gilda O’Neill’s ‘East End Tales’ satisfied my curiosity.  The front cover alone drew me in: two young girls spinning around a lamp post, on a rope, skirts tucked into their knickers.  The look of sheer glee on their faces, the blissful ignorance of any health and safety or any grown-up decency.  Not an i-anything in sight!  No phone glued to their hands…

Just throwing caution to the wind and living in the ‘now’ (or then!) and enjoying the moment.

Despite the over-riding theme of hardship, poverty and squaller running through the ‘tale’, O’Neill manages to paint a wistful picture of East End London life.

These days it’s difficult to really fathom how financially restrained the majority of East Enders were.  Even more difficult to imagine the squaller.  To them, weekly baths (at best) were the norm.  They knew no different.  But to us, it’s ‘squaller’.

You can smell the smells, you can taste the grit as O’Neill touches on the main points of life back then.  I really felt that I’d lived a tiny part of her East End life with her.

As the front cover suggests, this is a ‘quick read’ and if you don’t read it quickly, then it’s very readable and perfect for dipping into when you get the chance.


So tell me, do you like reading about the bygone days?

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