How you and your child can learn from your history

Our daughter keeps asking to see photos of me as a baby.  She’s fascinated!  I keep meaning to dig them out at my parents.  (Yes, they actually have them stuck into photo albums, not saved and hidden from view on a hard drive and in ‘clouds’…)

There’s one particular photo of our daughter when she was around 6 months old in her bouncer.  She’s the complete and utter, absolute double of me as a baby in this photo (except her eye colour and tone, which are 100% hubby’s – the shape of the eyes and the gaze are absolutely me though…)

I love looking back at photos.  It’s fascinating that my baby face started out so soft and unweathered!  I wonder now what the first real stress was that I experienced and what effect that had on my features.  And then as to how much more stress and lack of sleep over the years contributed to my ‘now’ face!  (No, I’m not doing before and after pics!)

But it’s life, isn’t it?  It’s what makes us, us.

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How we deal with life and stress, of course, can determine how rugged and weathered we look years down the line.  Some of it’s genetics but if I knew growing up what I know now about life, about healthy living, about the effects of ‘what goes in, comes out’ (so to speak!), I would very likely have had a different approach, have been kinder to my younger self!  Maybe even have taken things more slowly…

I certainly deal with stress in a different way now.

I’m not even sure how I dealt with such things as exams, boys, student life and budgeting.

But nowadays, I choose to relax with candles, yoga, meditation and reiki, and I also eat lots of fruit and veg.

My older, wiser self would, no doubt, be critical of my much younger self.

And as our daughter grows up, I know she takes it all in because she’s asked to do yoga with me.  She asks which crystals are which.  She notices things.  She copies my healthy eating.  She copies my attitude to others and adopts my kinder, more patient qualities (hark at me!)

Being a parent is my chance to re-write history, to open doors for our daughter, to open her mind to possibilities that my younger self knew existed.

I’m using my knowledge and turning my story, my history into her-story

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What would you do differently in turning your story into your child’s future history?  I’d love to know!  Please comment below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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“It’s time” ~ poem

How are you doing with your resolutions and goals?

Were they set at the beginning of the year?

Or did you say to yourself…

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I said that to myself and I started my gratitude journal in December one year instead of 1st of January!  It helps me to focus on my happiness each week.

It’s such a great tool for focussing on gratitude that I thought “why wait?”

I saw little point in waiting because…

When you wait you do nothing,

you make time stand still.

You don’t tick or tock,

you procrastinate at will.

When time stands still,

the world still moves on…

Life goes on around you

it waits for no one.

If you wait for a chance

you’re a fool to be sure;

you should try all the locks

to open the door!

For when you wait, you do nothing,

chances are you’ll lose out;

don’t wait, you can do it,

of that there’s no doubt…

By Carol Cameleon 2017

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Do you procrastinate or are you a ‘the time is now’ person?  I’d love to know!  Please comment below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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Back to the drawing board ~ when your plans go off course

Our daughter was busy at her desk, pencil in hand with an old diary open.  And that moment in time brought to mind the phrase ‘back to the drawing board’.  Which inspired the following poem.  It made me consider whether our daughter’s life is already mapped out and what influence she/we could have on it…
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 Back to the drawing board
When you’ve got a plan that goes off course,
Can you feel that pull?  It’s life’s energy force;
It’s pulling you here but you want to go there,
Do you dig in your heels like a stubborn mare?
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Do you accept your ‘fate’, if that’s what it’s called,
Or do you refuse to ever be stalled?
You’ve got your dreams, you’ve worked hard night and day,
You’ll reach your end goals, whatever they say…
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You push yourself forward, you push more and more,
You hear the ‘knock’ at opportunity’s door,
You open it wide with a crash and a clout,
“Who’s there?” goes the next line, “it’s me, so watch out!”
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Cos that’s what you need to succeed, be your best,
To rise up and up, to be there with the rest;
You need grit, discipline, you need a game plan,
A timeline and goals – to shout out “I can!”
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“I can and I will,” said again and again,
So you never give up, it’s not ‘if’ but ‘when’…
‘When’ you’ve got support at your east and your west,
Motivation and focus to strive, be your best.
When you’ve got ambition at your south and your north,
You find your path to follow, to conquer, go forth.
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When the signposts move, the path changes for you,
The lights will synch up. Wait.  There’s your cue.
The red, the amber, the green, go, go, go!
Ease off the brake, indicate, don’t go slow.
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When you’ve got a plan that goes off course,
There’s a reason for that; it’s life’s energy force.
It’s pulling you there but you want to go here,
Do your thing, be yourself and get into gear!
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By Carol Cameleon 2016
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Have you ever had a plan that’s gone off course only for things to turn out better in the end?  I’d love to hear about it!  Please comment below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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