How I turned a complicated pregnancy into a positive campaign

How I Turned A Complicated Pregnancy Into A Positive Campaign HELLP Syndrome Pre-eclampsia

How I turned a complicated pregnancy into a positive campaign

First up, let’s get something out of the way, and then let’s get onto the positive.  When I see pregnancy announcements or perfect birth stories, I often make a conscious decision not to read.  If it’s a blog post linked up in the same linky, I may have a skim read and then I often ‘just’ share the post.

It’s because I struggle to read ‘perfect’ pregnancy and perfect birth stories.  The reason being that I had a Complicated Pregnancy
which involved a low placenta and resulted in pre-eclampsia, an emergency c-section and HELLP syndrome (which saw me in intensive care for a week).

I realise that people go through far more than that in pregnancy and I’ll always be grateful for having a healthy daughter.

Everything’s relative

I understand that people can’t wait to share their news and they have every right to (just like I have every right to choose not to read something that is likely to upset and frustrate me.).

What I really struggle to understand is why women choose to have a home birth.  There, I’ve said it.

Things can go wrong very quickly during labour.  Why risk not having the top consultants and surgeons literally scrubbed up in a theatre for you and your baby?

I’m getting a little ranty, I know.

And that’s not really my style.

Yet it seems that I’m harbouring frustration towards home births.  Some may say it’s  jealousy.  Well, I say not – I never wanted a home birth.  Just a healthy baby.  And I was happy to have a section, more than happy to be ‘scheduled in’!

In an age where you have the best medical staff and equipment that a developed country can offer, why be so naive to think that everything will carry on hunky dory?

The serene dream

Yes, it’s lovely to have that serene dream of a home birth, of course it is.

but let’s get real here.

This is pregnancy.

Things can and do go very wrong.  A sad fact.

Although a *little* ranty, this post actually serves to illustrate that I’m grateful for being healthy, for being here with my little family, for having a healthy daughter… when things could have been so very different.  And undoubtedly would have been if I’d been insistent on having a home birth or at least sticking to any other birth plan.

How I Turned A Complicated Pregnancy Into A Positive Campaign HELLP Syndrome Pre-eclampsia

When things had settled into newborn life, I started to post a few updates on facebook about how we were both very lucky to be here.  And one night, a good friend said, “wow, you should turn this into a book.”

So I did.  An ebook to be precise.  An ebook that I published to ‘hellp’ raise awareness of HELLP syndrome.  Because it’s more common than you think, yet the healthcare professionals often don’t treat it with the urgency that it needs or just plain don’t recognise it for what it is in the first place.  Then I decided that as well my letter to the NHS, another way to giving something back when I got so much care, would be to give half of the proceeds to the charity Action on Pre-eclampsia (APEC).

And that’s what this post is for


It’s not for a rant so much as to tell you how I turned my complicated pregnancy into a positive campaign.  (I didn’t mean to rant quite so much by the way, but it did feel good…)

If I’ve caused anyone an offence on their past, present or future birth plan that may include a home birth, that wasn’t my intention.  This is my little corner of the internet and I wanted to show how I turned a trauma into a positive project.

Thanks for reading and I’ve hope I’ve raised some awareness.

Have you turned an unpleasant experience into something positive?  (pregnancy-related or otherwise.)  I’d love to hear from you!  Comment below or tweet me @AllSortsHere

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In response to ghostwritermummy on her post about why having a c-section makes her amazing, I said:

 Yes you are, absolutely incredibly amazing. All women who give birth are incredibly amazing but all women who give birth by c-section are especially incredibly amazing because of the unnecessary stigma that is STILL attached to sections; for the battle they have to face each time ‘the birthing stories’ are discussed at playgroups/school gates/play dates… Yes, you’re amazing for writing so candidly, from the heart, a lovely post that makes me (who would have died along with our baby had it not been for the emergency section) – that makes me feel amazing. Thank you x
And I typed that from the bottom of my heart.
When our little bear was born it was by emergency section.  Due to a low-lying placenta, we were booked in for a planned section in any case.  So there was me thinking that our birth experience might be pretty straight forward in the grand scheme of things. (After all, a planned section took out the uncertainty of ‘am I-aren’t I in labour…?’)
Not so…  at 37+1 weeks I had acute pre-eclampsia and then HELLP syndrome, which left mine and our little bear’s lives in the ‘balance’.  I’m reluctant to use that phrase ‘in the balance’ because it was, in fact, anything but.
It was traumatic.  It was terrifying.  It was uncertain.
It’s a miracle that either, never mind both of us are here today, 5 years later.  I put that down to the wonderful NHS staff on the night and here’s a poem I penned in their honour.  Yes, I know that a lot of work needs to be done to get the NHS up to speed with childbirth, which is part of the reason that #MatExp was founded but I will defend the NHS to the hilt.  Despite that, sometimes, I just want to forget the whole traumatic experience – aside from the miracle of our beautiful little bear being born of course.
Then I hear about campaigns like #MatExp (which is somewhere to share birth trauma experiences, somewhere to spread the word, somewhere to raise awareness.) and I know that my work is not done…
When I published my ebook ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’, I wanted to raise awareness of pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome – they are pregnancy conditions that can be fatal to mum and baby, and all too often they do bring with them fatalities.  That’s the truth.
I wanted to raise vital awareness and through my blog and my ebook I have helped to do just that, and also raised some money for the charity Action on Pre-eclampsia through book sales.  So you see, in keeping with my blog, I’ve taken a positive from a negative and helped other women, their families and friends.  And maybe, just maybe, I’ve helped to save a life.
That’s why I’m posting this up on my blog to support #MatExp
What’s your birth experience?  What will you share for #MatExp? What are your views on c-sections? (whether you’ve had first-hand experience or not)



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‘C’ is for Complicated Pregnancy #AtoZChallenge

Hello and welcome to my take on the #AtoZChallenge.  You can find out why I’m taking part in ‘From Alpha to Zulu and everything in between…’


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‘C’ is for Complicated for the #AtoZChallenge

Having experienced a complicated pregnancy and traumatic birth due to acute pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome, I wanted to raise awareness of these very serious pregnancy conditions.

The bottom line is that after our little bear entered into our world, I wanted to ‘hellp’ save a life.  Shortly after our little bear was born, I published my ebook ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’ with 50% of sales going to the charity Action on Pre-eclampsia.

Every pregnant woman and their families and friends should know about HELLP syndrome.  It’s a pregnancy condition that can be fatal to both Mum and baby.  As a result of my harrowing journey, I’ve ‘met’ some amazing women through facebook support groups and blogs.

So a virtual ‘high five’ to them.  We are all survivors.  Each and every one of us…

 This post is for ‘C’ in the #AtoZChallenge.


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50% of sales to charity

If you didn’t know, hellp syndrome is a variant of the pregnancy condition pre-eclampsia and can be fatal to Mum and baby.

Please hellp  to spread the word today by buying my ebook ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’With 50% of sales going to the charity APEC (Action on Pre-eclampsia), this is an emotional and inspiring journey through a pregnancy involving placenta praevia, pre-eclampsia and ‘HELLP’ syndrome. This book was written to raise awareness of these pregnancy conditions.  

A 5 out of 5 star review on Amazon: “I am also a survivor of HELLP syndrome and I highly recommended this book! Shocking how many people have not heard of hellp, this woman truly is an inspiration, plus half the proceeds go to charity!”

You might just save the life of a wife, mother, daughter, sister…

Thank you.


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Parenting: read all about it


There are so many sources of information on parenting aren’t there?  In paper, ebook, websites and forums (and quite possibly many more!)

From not feeling quite right but not being able to put our finger on it and therefore googling (reputable websites only!) symptoms, it soon became clear that we were indeed pregnant.  That strange metallic taste in my mouth (how utterly bizarre!), wretching after breakfast (and beyond!), over-whelming tiredness and the lusting after chips and milkshake!  Yes, we were pregnant and we were about to embark on a tumultuous journey into parenting.   Aside from the complications, we were excited as the next parents-to-be and we bought ourselves a little book in a charity shop.  We were yet to be over the 3 month hurdle and I didn’t dare buy it ‘just in case’, such was my worry at the time.

But once over that hurdle, I couldn’t wait to get that copy home.  The book was a week by week guide to how the foetus develops in your womb.  There were so many facts and figures, it really started to sink in just how incredible, how amazing, how miraculous life really is.

I can’t actually remember what the book was called now unfortunately.  But to a mum-to-be, it was well-thumbed and excitedly digested… well except in the mornings after breakfast, just before lunch and just before bedtime.  Dam you ‘morning’ sickness!

What about you?  What did you enjoy reading about when you were a parent-to-be?  Or what do you wish you hadn’t read?  Comment or tweet me.

Then hop over to The Reading Residence and Redpeffer for #TheThemeGame which is ‘parenting’ this week.

Join in!

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding ‘Working Mum Guilt’. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

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