How to Help a Friend in Need
Have you got a friend going through personal struggles who you want to help? Even when it comes to the people closest to us, knowing how to give help may not always be obvious. Here’s some advice for giving the right support:
Understanding the problem may mean doing some research. You don’t want to give them the wrong advice and support and end up making matters worse. The root of the problem could be anything from grief, to an addiction, to work-related stress, to relationship problems. Ask them for their input and do your own research online. By educating yourself, you’ll be better prepared for helping them. You can even research solutions to the problem together.
Know the boundaries
Knowing the boundaries can be tricky. Some friends might not want help, but may need it – and while you don’t want to force your help on them, you may need to keep on at them before you get through to them. In other cases, friends may be too reliant on you to the point that you feel like they’re taking advantage. In these cases, you might need to distance yourself and try to encourage them to be more independent.
Learn to listen
Not all friends may be looking for advice. Some people just need someone to talk to, a way to vent their problems. Make sure you’re taking the time to listen to your friend instead of constantly giving your opinion. Being too opinionated could stop them trusting you.
Lift some of the burden
If your friend is having to deal with a lot of responsibilities, consider small gestures that might be able to lift some of the burden. This could include inviting over your friend for a meal so they don’t have to cook, babysitting children for them or helping with housework. These small gestures will help build trust and make it easier to help them.
Seek outside help
Outside help could be required in many cases. This might be anything from bereavement counselling to drug rehab, depending on the circumstances. Try discussing the option of seeking outside support with your friend. They might be reluctant to see a professional, so you may need to do some persuading. There are lots of options out there to discuss such as group therapy sessions or individual counselling.
Be a healthy distraction
You might not want to make every meeting with your friend about the issue at hand. Sometimes being a positive distraction can really make a difference. This could include going on a day out with them and completely getting away from the issue. They may then be able to overcome their problems while realising that there is still fun to be had.
*This is a collaborative post
Getting everything you need from a plant-based diet
Nowadays increasing numbers of people are opting to take on an entirely plant-based diet. This is usually called veganism, because it excludes the use of any kind of animal product. This means no more meat, dairy, eggs, honey, gelatine, and animal fat. The most common reason for taking on this lifestyle tends to be for the sake of animals, as millions are exploited, harmed and killed every year for the sake of human consumption. Other reasons include environmental factors (because factory farming creates more methane gas than any other industry and contributes to deforestation) and health reasons (animal products have been linked to various serious health complaints).
One of the main concerns of those considering a vegan lifestyle is whether they will be able to get everything they need from an entirely plant-based diet. In short, the answer is yes, you can get everything you need to thrive on a vegan diet. To help you along, here’s how to source some nutrients and vitamins that are commonly associated with consuming animal products!
Costa Rica ~ the best ways to relax body and mind
When you’re looking to book your next well-deserved holiday, you should consider Costa Rica!
Because you can do as little or as much as you like…
sounds good to me!
5 ways to take care of yourself
It’s time to focus on you so that you have time for you. Whether you have 5 minutes or more (!), finding time for yourself is a must, not an option.
Finding time for yourself is a must, not an option.
Yes, I know you were probably distracted, multi-tasking no doubt, so I repeated myself!
Looking after yourself, just you, is so important to your physical and mental wellbeing.
Here’s how you can do it:
Review of Palmistry app
I’m a very spiritual person, what with being reiki-attuned, a certified crystal healer and with a recent fascination with the moon and astrology. My hunger for ‘deeper’ or ‘other level’ things is growing.
…which is why I was really excited to hear of this palm reading app.
50 Happy Things 2018: Bloggers Unite to Flood the Internet With Gratitude
As you know, I do love anything connected with gratitude and when a post from Tales from the Motherland popped into my emails, the first words I read were ‘happy’ ‘bloggers’ ‘gratitude’. Funny the words your eyes pick out first.
It was a no-brainer for me to take part. After all, I already list my happy things each Friday in my #HighlightsofHappy linky and love the idea of listing 50 things that I’m grateful for in 15 minutes (you can see the instructions below my list).
Without further ado, here are 50 things that I’m very happy and grateful for: Continue reading
A brief guide to chakras
I recently told you how you can balance your body and mind with crystals. To illustrate how you can do this, there are many levels of alternative therapies that we can and must look at. The challenge is to introduce each level as a layer, much like an auric layer! (more on those at a later date!)
We each have 7 major ‘spinning wheels’ called chakras. They should each be open and spinning in alternate directions. They should also align with each other. If they’re not open and aligned, the energy cannot flow freely. When we have blockages in our energy flow, we become out of balance. This is when our body becomes out of alignment or not at ‘ease’. It is when our body is ‘dis-eased’ that we get ill. It is clear to see then, that if we keep our chakras balanced, we are less likely to experience ‘dis-ease’ or ‘illness’ and stress.
Other than introducing you to my ebook ‘The Domino Effect‘ (for your free copy, opt-in at the bottom of this post), the best way I can think to introduce you to the wonderful world of chakras is in poem form. Here’s one that I wrote a few years ago and it’s the perfect time to share it again:
The benefits of school clubs vs the potential for overwhelm
After months of encouraging our now 8 year old to join in with some school clubs, we found ourselves with an uber-enthuastic daughter on our hands!
Due to after-school childminding because of work commitments, she was limited to what she could do. But come year 3, she wanted to try every club going – gymnastics, dance, science club, cheerleading, music, youth club… which was great but we had to fit homework in somewhere too. How inconvenient!
We didn’t want our weekends taken over with homework.
When she asked if she could do this club and that club, we told her that if it fits around work and homework, no problem (so long as she got in!)